Often, we end up seeking the help of a therapist not because of any external problem but because of our ideas and judgments about how we should be feeling or behaving.
In other words it is often our judgments and constructs that create the problem. According to the late Dr. Milton Erickson, 'the only reason people come to therapy is because their conscious mind has fallen out of rapport with their unconscious'.
I see the symptom as a way of our system telling us that ‘something is up’. So rather than pathologising the issue, I prefer to cultivate an attitude of deep respect and curiosity around what is trying to emerge. In this way, Psychotherapy can help us with our capacity to accept and honour all parts of ourselves, even those that we have tried to hide from or make wrong.
Essentially, it is about freeing you up so that you have a greater sense of choice in the world.
I believe that
simply talking about the problem is unlikely to affect long lasting change - for true long lasting change we need to work with our somatic (or body-based) intelligence
it is helpful to be clear about our intentions and outcomes for therapy, while paradoxically releasing attachment to the end goal
an important part of our individual journeys towards emotional maturity and well-being is learning to develop the witness faculty for ourselves
it is important to hold both a sense of lightness and depth while working psychotherapeutically
it is essential for mental health practitioners to consider themselves as life-long learners, and that each client will teach us something important about ourselves
I am not the expert on your own recovery - you are. All I do is create the right environment for you to do the change-work yourself.